Authentic Connections

Helping Real People Facilitate Authentic Connections

Toronto, Ontario

 

My mission is to help those who want to learn about the diverse pallet of sexualities, preferences, and relationships that are available to them, and help them discover how they can achieve what they truly desire.

Online Profile Basics : How to Get More Matches!

May 02, 2016  /  Alex Zalewski

Step one of building a decent profile is discovering what it is you want. Be honest with yourself about what you are looking for; why are you making this profile? A profile that eloquently communicates your desires and follows these basic guidelines will be extremely successful.

Your Bio:

  • Use ALL the space available to you. This is your opportunity to stand out; USE IT! Try writing a few different versions, and get someone to read them and give you feedback.
  • The information you present in your bio should be authentic and exciting. Don’t try to be over the top, but share the exciting things you have to offer a potential partner. 
  • Your words should make someone smile, blush, or want to know more and ask a question! Be unique, because there are lots of other Dudes out there that “like pizza, beer and sports.”
  • Don’t be rude, vulgar or condescending… unless that's how you would introduce yourself in person. Also, try not to use phrases like “no hipsters.” One of them might surprise you, and you will never know if you don't even let them try.
  • If someone clearly states on their profile, “NO MEN” or “NO MEN OVER 40” and you are a man over forty, please refrain from messaging them anyway.

 
Your Photos:

  • At least one professional headshot. Photographers know how to take photos that show off your good features, so why not take advantage of their services? Not for every photo, as that can be seen as a little misleading, but at least your first photo: the profile shot. Show that you care.  
  • At least one candid shot. Make sure they’re not all professional photos and selfies, because then it looks like you don't have any friends -- at least not ones with cameras -- or you are just a boring person who doesn’t go out enough to be photographed. 
  • Dudes, no shirtless selfies! If you look that good, make it a pleasant surprise for when your shirt comes off. Just wear clothes that fit for your photos!
  • Girls, no duckface! Don't get me wrong, if you are the kinda gal that is duckfacing for 90% of your life, make your profile reflect that; but if you are only doing it in your Tinder profile photos, maybe try just smiling.
  • There has to be at least one photo of just you, otherwise people can't tell which one is you! A group photo should also never be the first one; there’s no chance anyone is taking the time to figure out who’s who if it’s not immediately clear.

That's it, super simple, no tricks, just be honest and authentic!

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