Optimism Is Sexy

We all spend time thinking about the future. Our outlook has a pretty big influence on how we communicate with others. You will almost always get a better response from someone if you believe that outcome will be positive. This also ties into displaying self-confidence, another very attractive quality. 

Let’s look at texting from this perspective. I recently received a text from someone I hadn't talked to in some time. I looked down at my phone and read, “So, do you want to see me ever again?” My heart sank. I would have loved to see this person again, but the tone of the message was not the way to make that happen. Instead it just made me feel a little guilty for not having been in contact, but also annoyed that she wanted to use such a negative context to convince me to respond. 

Don’t use the stick when you can use the carrot, right? Act under the assumption that whoever it is wants to see you! Likes spending time with you! Is excited that you are contacting them! How would the way you present yourself change? How would the language you use change? How else might it change your life if you act as if the person interviewing you for the job obviously wants you for the position?

Some people are trained to react to negativity and pessimism; in order to avoid judgment or shame, but who would really prefer being motivated by that? Confidence and happiness are always attractive!